What do you think is the cause of your "fellatio phobia"? Is it a bad past experience, or perhaps a fear related to not having much, if any, experience? Let's get to the bottom of both of these. Fear of gagging: A lot of women think that deep-throating putting the entire penis in your mouth, which can cause gagging is the key to giving a guy ultimate oral pleasure, but that's a myth. What you do need to provide is a combination of pressure and friction: pressure at the base of the penis, friction at the head.
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For some women, it can be hard to enjoy the pleasures of oral sex. For others, giving or receiving oral is a fate more terrifying than a root canal. Hey, neither of these fears is cause for embarrassment. But if you have trepidations about oral sex, you're not alone.
How can I get over my aversion to going down on a guy?
The level of vulnerability and intimacy involved in cunnilingus can feel uncomfortable and even intrusive to many women. But when we start thinking too much about going down on our partner or having them go down on us, it ruins any chance of pleasure. So, why do so many of us do this? If this sounds like you, here are six steps to help you break through the cunnilingus mental block and experience oral sex as the insanely feel-good experience it can be. Most women tend to be far more focused on giving pleasure than receiving in general.
But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions will remain anonymous. Please send your sex and relationship inquiries to tips bustle.